Lent & Givin’ Up – Givin’ Up

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I Corinthians 13:7

As Lent approached in 1993, I was entering my third month of rehabiliation following the bicycle accident in which I broke my back, damaged my spinal cord, and became a parapalegic. Grieving my losses, it was hard to imagine voluntarily “giving up” something for Lent. I felt, I had “given up” enough; so I gave up “giving up something”.

I remember that part of my journey and my relationship with God during that time. Then giving up “giving up” provide an experience of God’s grace and prepared me to celebrate the mystery of Easter – the power of God to overcome the evil of crucifixion.

This year, “giving up” has two meanings.

ONE   Like a third of people who make New Year’s Resolutions{{1}}, I’m in danger of giving them up. I haven’t consciously decided to give them up. I’ve slowly slid back into previous habits: ones that are less than what God desires for me. So for Lent, I’m giving up –  giving up my New Year’s Resolutions: I have three – a) to practice email zero;  b) de-clutter my life; and c) handcycle 3x/week & weight train 2x/wk. (Current research suggests I’ve made a mistake making 3 resolutions and overtaxing my willpower.)

The slow, almost unperceptable way that we give up our New Year’s Resolutions, provides insight into others ways we give up. Cynical? Given up on the power of hope?  Holding a grudge?  Given up on the power of reconciliation?Darryl Fairchild handcycling

TWO Giving up is losing our commitment to living fully. In 1993, I had friends who were worried that I would give up living fully and were committed to accompanying me on my journey so that I would not give up. Because of the tragic accident, they were worried that I would shy away from life. (Little did they know that surviving the accident only confirmed my youthful delusion that I was indestructible . . . ) There were hard days; Giving up was not an option.

The preparation of Lent is a time to look at the ways, conscious or unconscious, we have given up.  It is a time to allow love to rekindle within us so that we live fully.

[[1]]NYT – Be It Resolved: New Years Resolutions Stick When Willpower Is Reinforced[[1]]

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